The expression above explains it all (minus the iStock photo symbol)
Ok today is Sunday, the 23 of September and I've come to a number of conclusions.Today was Nate Johnsons Farewell, he is such an amazing guy,he asked a few of us ( past "lighters") to sing a song called "This is My Word", i was so honored to sing with him and record that beautiful song, it was so powerful and the words were awesome. Anyways, after the meeting, we all went back over to nates house and had lunch, the guys and i were talking to nate and he was saying the worse year of his life was the last year because it was like he was just waiting to go. This confused me, you see, guys get to go on missions at age 19, they also are given the priesthood, they are also home and practically assigned to get married immeadiatly, also, after serving a mission, if you have desent grades, BYU practically escorts you to the admission desks.Plus relationship wise guys tend to do whatever they please at this time in thier lives becasue they have to years to buffer those relationships so there are hardly any difficulties,(unless your super hard core exclusive and wanna have a gal wait for em er something stupid like that).As the guys went on and on about how hard it was to not attend school for a year and spend time with friends and family and working before the best experience of thier life (Mission) followed by the other best experience of thier life( marriage). AW i feel so bad (sarcasim obviously impied) Girls on the other had have got different challenges to face. U C girls tend to like guys that are 1 to 2 years older then them, this is natural, however as they become of age to date, typically 16, the boys that they tend to date are roughly 18 er 19, meaning they date guys that are pre-missionarys and not to interested, (if they're even worth it, they arnt that interseted cuz they're focused) SO relatioships are impossible and frusterating 97% of the time, then youve got the two extra years that girls have to wait to go on missions.I, along with many other LDS Girls wanna serve a mission and share the gospel REAL BAD, however the way this has all been set up is the guys leave girls for two years, girls desperatly date meaninglessly while guys have amazing spiritual experiences, girls long to share thier love for the gospel and spread it, guys get home just in time to stop girls, seduce them, and marry them, after that everything kinda evens out but guys have a map here, some guidance, girls have no idea. Now im not complaining here, i love being a girls, because . . . i get to like guys. (teheheheh) but honestly, i just had to represent here, i think about this stuff (alot more than most girls considering 95% of my closest friends are guys) Guys if you ever think you have it rough, . . . . think again, we're all so lucky. . . especially you! If you have anything to add or comment on, please enlighten me, i feel a little alone in this fighting cause for awarness.
Wow, you put it all on hard copy for the rest of us, awesome writting!
ReplyDeleteWell even being one of the "dumb" girls that thought she would wait for her missionary, I still agree with this. And second the awesome writing. How come you got ALL the talent in the family? And the burning desire to go on a mission.
ReplyDeleteIn the boys defense, I feel bad because all the guys in my group are gonna come home and every girl will be married.
But its also kinda funny.
Kayla... I could not have put it better myself. :) They think they've got it SO bad... They don't even know. And, even if a girl tries to just date around and stay "un-married," it never works, because the instant there's an attraction to an RM... there's wedding bells. (or in our cases temple pictures)
ReplyDeleteRIDICULOUS, RIGHT?
Guys are STRONGLY encouraged to go on missions at the age of 19. Girls are not required to go on missions, but may do so if they desire to.
ReplyDeleteAnd there's the catch--DESIRE.
If the girl had no desire to, then she would just get married and not complain about waiting until she was 21.
So, the solution is...change your desire. You will find that it by far easier to change your attitude towards something rather than changing the thing itself. Of course, this is really hard to do, especially if you have that burning and fervent passion to go and spread the Gospel to all who can hear it. And Kayla, I know that you do, so it may be extra hard for you.
But think of it this way: you are replacing a 1.5-year service mission with another, greater mission--raising a family. That is just as important as going and preaching the Gospel for two years, because every child that you bring into this world is being raised in the Church and is therefore another soul that is converted and brought to Christ. It has the same effect as if you had gone out and served a mission.
Your other option would be to pretend that you are a guy and go on a mission when you are 19. All you would have to do is make sure that your Bishop and Stake President play along with it :-)